I’ve not read too much from John Piper, but I have heard of him before. I just read a 2-part sermon of his on the issue of marriage. They are really good. You can find part 1 here and part 2 here.
I agree with his teaching, 100%. Marriage is for life. Non of this “I don’t feel like it anymore” garbage. Marriage is not easy. And sometimes it’s not fun. Esp. when you are on the side that has done something wrong (I know about this side better then the other side). My husband doesn’t ask a whole lot from me. I care more about a clean and orderly house then he does. Except for his chef coats, he doesn’t care if the laundry gets done. So why is it I still mess up the few things he does ask of me? Stupidity. That’s what it is. Plain and simple stupidity.
I screwed up yesterday. I did something he has asked me not to do. So he was understandably angry with me last night. And I had to say “I’m sorry” once again (I’m not saying all this to get any kind of simpathy. I just feel it’s important to admit that I’m real with real struggles). So I crawled into bed, wondering what he would say next. After a little while, he reached over and held my hand. That’s all it took to tell me that he was still not happy about my actions, but he was no longer angry with me.
That is what commitment is.